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A Day, A Week, A Month, A Year...IN THE LIFE of AN UNLIKELY.....MILITARY WIFE....** (A collection of snapshots, letters and memoirs DEDICATED to CHRISTOPHER ALLAN COUSSENS.)

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Uncle LEGS and Auntie ARMS...**

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I haven't gotten my hair cut since February, so for the last month I have been hiding under handkerchiefs, hats and putting loads of product in my hair to make it decent because my hair has been straight up wack! I miss my stylist in Alaska so much, and going to a salon in a foreign country is really difficult, because of the language barrier.  

My short hair was really unique in the States, but over here in Europe short hair is way more prevalent, and odd colors are more accepted.  So I have been wanting to do something totally different.  Here are some of the pictures that I took to the stylist.






And this is what I got:


 





I am really stoked about my hair! It turned out sooooo goood!  LEGS likes it too.  I guess a few of the guys asked him if he had seen my hair, because they were shocked by it, and LEGS told them 'She doesn't do anything without checking with me first.'  And that is true, I don't do anything without going to LEGS for a reality check, we have a great relationship, we talk about everything.  LEGS also said 'I like to watch people squirm when they see your hair.'  

So it all ends happily, I found a stylist I LOVE in NEVER NEVER LAND, I got a hair style that is bizarre in a high fashion sort of way, and I made a statement.

Kayla went into labor, and had my niece RYLEE ELIZABETH MAGANA after 13 hours of labor and 2 and half hours of pushing.  She weighs 7 pounds, 7 ounces (MY LUCKY NUMBER!!!), and is 19 1/2 inches long. She has a full head of dark hair and blue eyes.  

 

I cried when The Mommy told me the whole story on how she was born and I saw the pictures.  Its a very exciting time in my family, because this is the first grandchild, our first niece, and she is healthy and beautiful!  I feel like my responsibility in this world has gotten a whole lot bigger, and I take very seriously the role of being an Aunt.  


I got to see Rylee on skype today.  It touched my heart that she was awake and turning her head so that she could stare back at me with her pretty gray blue eyes....she must have felt my heart beating faster and it filling up with so much love for her already.


It was also funny watching two new parents scramble to take care of her.  While on skype I heard her cry, she tooted, and poo pooed, they changed and swaddled her, she likes to be swaddled.  I want to ask Rylee so bad, what she dreams of, if she remembers what heaven is like, and how she is going to change this world.  Babies are so magical!  And I cannot wait to hold her!

ARMS' Mailbox:

A friend recently wrote to me about a dilemma she is in.  

Her best friend is in a abusive relationship and their are children involved.  Her problem is that she doesn't agree with the relationship but doesn't want to abandon the friendship.  Obviously its a complex situation that I am not particularly qualified to give advice about, but none-the-less, I offered some comforting words.
Dear Friend:

You can always come to me.

What I would say to this is......

First of all, you can never control people, they are going to do whatever they want to do. You can try to influence them, which you obviously have but you can't pick who they marry, date or hang out with.

Many abusive relationships run in cycles, Honey Moon, Abuse, Honey Moon Abuse. You can't be angry with her for wanting to believe that the guy can change and be good...because secretly I think we all want to believe people are good and change is possible.

What I would say is calmly state your point and your concern for her and her boys. If she decides to go back to him you have two choices you can tell her that you will still be her friend but you will no longer discuss her relationship problems, or you can drop the whole relationship.

I know this is hard, but you have to take your own happiness and peace of mind and make it a priority. If being friends with her and not discussing her relationship is too hard for you or too hard for her then I say drop it. But....if you can handle it...then be there for her with everything else in life....

What I do in my life is this.....I surround myself with people who are positive, who are doing amazing things with their lives and who have their sh*t together. This helps ME be the person I want to be in this life and world.

Sometimes when people that I like hit a rough spot, and I try to help them, but they seem content on continuing in the downward spiral I create space. You have to do this otherwise your life will go right down with them.....


BALANCE IS THE KEY!

Does this help? Nobody said you have to die with your friends....all they said is you have to be a good friend, in order to be a good friend you have to be a good person...

Love on ya, ARMS

Guilty Pleasures:

Since LEGS has been back from the field I have really been bad.
I ate three pieces of cake at a BBQ we went to.

I have been drinking entirely too much alcohol.

And I have been eating really unhealthy food.

And its not so much of a guilty pleasure as it is a punishment, but I drank enough to throw up last night.....



People have asked me why I call Germany NEVER NEVER LAND.  LEGS and I always said we would come to Germany for a Christmas once in our lives.  I figured it would happen when we were retired, old and gray. Now we live here, Germany has become a place for us to live out a dream.  

NEVER NEVER LAND is a place that we don't have to grow up, and my blog details our life in a balanced mixture of my imagination and reality. 
Its been my experience that to get through life and ENJOY every minute you have to be creative, use your imagination, play a game with yourself, make pretend.  I have a beautiful garden, where fairies and I play all day, my husband can really fly, he has a whole group of LOST BOYZ that are some of the coolest guyz I have met, and I live a life which allows me to believe with my whole heart in fairy tales.







Random Thoughts:

Some people are just negative, they thrive on alienating others, complaining about everything, and instead of uniting people they divide people.....and its always over something really stupid.....

I love LEGS....I just....LOVE him...so much....



Every time I think about Rylee I get a lump in my throat and tears of joy well up in my eyes....

I need to clean my house....its messy.....according to my standards....

I shouldn't put another thing in my mouth for the duration of the weekend, but I am hungry.....

Sometimes its really hard for me to watch other people, the sadness, loneliness, and pain is so obvious to me....and completely lost on others...

I think I am getting to the point where.....I don't dislike people, I mostly just feel sorry for them......

Its always neat to meet somebody where you can talk to them all night long about everything because they are totally radical...its one of my favorite things in life....
OVER & OUT

Just another day in life of an unlikely military wife.....**



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