Cleaning the Skeleton's out of the Closet**

Today has been a busy day for me.  I woke up with LEGS and while he completed homework for today's class I started to take down all the Halloween decorations.  I started thinking maybe I should leave them up for a few more days-Halloween was just yesterday right? I decided against-I want to get the house back to normal and the bloody light bulbs need to go.  After working on the inside, I went and worked on the outside- taking down all the pine straw covered fake cobwebs and getting all the pine straw out of my yard AGAIN............

Then I went for a run and did my P90x- Lord knows after all the crape and booze I consumed this weekend I need to detoxify and cleanse the system.  I also needed to cleanse my mind and get those skeletons out of my closet.  

One issue that has come up again and again in variety of ways in my life this week.........is "Fake Friends." OH YIKES!!! She is actually going there......Yes......I am..........because its bothering me.  I cannot begin to inventory all the events, gifts, emails, fb posts, energy and time I have spent trying to be friends with people- JUST THIS YEAR. 

Being a military spouse has required me to dig deep to make connections and work very hard to forge friendships with people in a short period of time.  In this life your friends become your family when you are so far away from home.  They become the people that you count on, confide in, and above all TRUST.  Also, during this time our country is at war, I dare not say the realities of this circumstance- but I have so much pride for our men in uniform and the wives/families that stand beside them- how could I be ugly to them when they make such great sacrifices for my husband, my family, and myself???

LEGS and I have always prided ourselves on being there for people- even when it wasn't convenient, even when we didn't have the time, or the money, or the energy.  We realize that the military is a small world and we are bound to run into the same people over and over again through out his career- so we always strive to put our best foot forward.


I understand sometimes people don't fundamentally agree with people's choices, lifestyles or personalities clash- and that's okay.......but isn't that the beauty of this life as well??? I personally try to be friends with everybody- because I would never want to be exclusionary- you never know what people are going to teach you, or how they might enrich your life.  It does not make me feel good to exclude, avoid, be nasty, or play favorites to anybody.  It occurs to me that peoples feelings may be hurt and in the end I know that I reap what I sow.

It doesn't always have to be perfect either.  I have learned that some of the best memories I have with people are lame, messy, emotional, and boring.  We are all human, we all have marital/family problems, insecurities, bad days, messy houses, and weaknesses- this is what makes spending time with people REAL.  People will not remember what you said, what you did or didn't do, how you were dressed, if your house was messy- they will remember how you made them feel......

LEGS and I want all of our friends to know "Never shall we forget the times we spent with you, continue to be our friends, as you shall always find us yours" Beethoven....**